A Friend Indeed

My mum is out of town. She just called me to tell me she lost a close friend of hers in Nigeria. This friend of my mum's has been sick for a while, and for the past few days has been unable to speak. Apparently, she woke up yesterday, with more energy than she's had in a few days. Her family said she kept asking to speak with my mum. They called my mum several times yesterday, but couldn't reach her. When they eventually reached her today, they told her that her friend had passed on, that she called on her name till she died. My mum is obviously not herself. She had spoken to her friend earlier in the week and asked her to hang on, that she would be back soon to take care of her. Never happened. As painful as this is for my mum, i can't help but put my thinking hat on. My mum has touched a lot of people. She doesn't have a lot of friends, but the ones she has, she will go above and beyond for. A lot of things she does for her friends, i would feel too inconvenienced to do. She is so loyal, so kind, so humble, so patient, so tolerant. Just like her middle name, Obioma, she has such a good heart. Early on in life, she had a lot of success, and came to a point where she hit rock bottom. Then she realized what i myself have learned, that a lot of friendships are based on what people can get from you. Most people like to identify themselves with success and status. You make them look good, so when things are going well, they'll flock around you. But let things get rough, boy! will they avoid you like a plague. I'm studying the life of my parents, especially my father as well, who was also very popular, very loved, and touched so many lives before the big turn in our lives, and all his friends deserted him. Ah life! Anyway, the bright side of things. I'm thankful that my parents did not give up on friendships, rather as they picked up the pieces of their lives, they began to choose wisely. They are no longer drawn to superficial success and materialistic people. They pursue meaningful friendships, where they can touch people's lives and be touched as well. Luckily for me, i experienced these things with them, so i'm equally working on meaningful friendships....I don't know... I'm just so touched that on this woman's death bed, it was my mum's voice and reassurance she needed. I am also thankful that she found a friend in my mum, who stood by her even when nobody else did. Hopefully, i'll grow to become such a friend.


"One of the hardest things in life is to have mattered, to have been loved, to have achieved so much success, and to have had it all taken away from you"-Me


When you talk about friends, you talk about these two. Ignore me in the middle doing the "duck lips" lol.
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Shopping with the love of my life, my mother